the conflation of “dead dove” into a genre of fic when it’s intended to mean “there are warnings here, take them seriously because you get exactly what’s on the tin” is probably one of the worst things to happrn to fandom because you get people who tag “dead dove” and no other type of warning. like. cool. this is worthless
and you get people saying “anyone who writes dead dove is morally awful” or whatever. which is like. hello. this is a label you slap on the front of something to say what it is not a type of story
for context it comes from this. it means “this has what i said it has, if you click on this and complain about it that’s on you because i literally told you what to expect”. it’s not a vague catch all for “dark and fucked up”. honestly, it doesn’t even have to be a dark fic at all.
like. if someone tags a fic “mpreg” and “dead dove”, without any additional warning tags, that’s typically not supposed to mean there’s some unwarned for fucked up shit lurking inside, but that. hey. there’s mpreg. do not click and complain about there being mpreg. it’s right there on the tin.
but people have begun using it as just. there’s some fucked up content here but i don’t want to say what. which is literally just. the opposite of what the tag means 😭
Kids on the internet now a days are literally wild.. like when I was 12 and on the internet, i was lying out my asshole I was telling people about my kids and my wife. I was talking to them about taxes and how I miss my college days…..now 12 year Olds are out here telling their AGE?!?! OR REAL NAME?!??! I was literally fucking Garry that worked at staples and had 2 children for like 4 years…
Really genuinely feel like we need to bring back internet safety classes.
like this isn’t about “no one on the internet is your friend” it’s about “everyone on the internet can be entirely anonymous and disappear at a moment’s notice and you need to be aware of that and be sure of people’s intentions” it’s about “that person might be really nice and giving or they might be scamming you and you need to be able to tell the difference” it’s about “you need to be sure that the link you’re clicking on is going to take you to the right place”
it’s basic stuff i’m not trying to scare people but you need! to practice healthy skepticism online!!
when I was a kid it was “everyone on the internet is an axe murderer” which was not helpful but “everyone on the internet can be trusted with your full name, city, workplace, health conditions, traumas, and any triggers you may have” is also not helpful
let’s get somewhere in the middle with “if you wouldn’t walk up to a stranger at the grocery store and tell them this, don’t share it with the entire internet either”
everything has political content. sorry. theres some guys who get really really angy when you say this but its true
oh was it made? by a person who lives within a social system? using time and/or money? oh then its production has a political economy. hope this helps
Every time I see one of these posts I can’t help but think of someone watching some show made for literal babies or toddlers with a notepad trying to find all the political messages.
very funny to say the sentence ‘show made for literal babies or toddlers’ and not realize that there are many deeply political aspects to the fact that’s a category you can delineate in the first place!
like, genuinely–i think you could stand to benefit from examining why you think the idea that a ‘show for babies’ is a neutral, apolitical thing–why you think that, for example, the construction of ‘the child’ as a social category and as an entertainment industry marketing demographic, exist outside of the sphere of ‘politics’, because any serious examination makes it clear that those things are deeply political in nature. these things do not come from nowhere!
“Politics is the realm of public life in which we all compete and cooperate for resources, rights, responsibilities, and ideals. It is the collective social process of formulating, advocating for, and constructing a vision of society which meets the needs and desires of those within it. We all participate in politics, each and every day. Every argument and discussion, every purchase and donation, every contract signed and agreement made, and every act of public kindness or cruelty is a political act.”
This is actually a 💯💯💯 explanation of historical methodology and the Things you have to understand when questioning and analyzing your sources.
Ok yes this, and also we’re not obligated to spend all our lives dissecting everything, so if you’re analyzing something it’s good to consider its political context, but we are absolutely entitled to consume media without thinking about all of its miniscule political implications (because that will not gain us anything but confusion and misery). Like, 1) Everything is political and 2) Let people enjoy things in an innocent way.
No. i will not let you enjoy things. as we fucking speak my elite squad of frankfurt school special forces are making their way to your location to hold you at gunpoint until you’ve written a dissertation on the influence of hegemonic culture on whatever your favourite show is. 10,000 words and you must cite gramsci or else you’re never seeing the light of day again mother fucker
the one problem i have with people my age and younger is that a lot of us do not have hands on hobbies. like i have spoken to so many people my age who go to work, go to school and then fuck around on their phone/computer for hours and then ???????? like no wonder ur depressed and have low confidence in urself. u need to get ur hands on something, feed those dopamine receptors! learn how to play guitar, garden, scrapbook, fucking make model trains. i don’t give a shit, MAKE SOMETHING!!
it feels better than drugs when i finish making a thing—and then show it off or gift it.
and then so people my age say to me ‘well—i can’t draw/paint/knit/etc. like you can. my stuff would be terrible.’ yeah, well duh—a part of developing skill is sucking at something and then practicing it over and over and over again until you suck less. u’ll have a hard time feeling lonely or bored when you can’t stop thinking abt a technique you want to try or something you want to make for someone else. making things has SAVED MY LIFE. it gave me a reason to keep living day after day when i wanted to die.
making things have improved my generational relationships (when i worked for the newspaper i would talk to customers abt jamming recipes or cross-stitch, one of my grandmas always gives me pattern books and tell me abt when she knitted things for mom, my other grandma is giving me a wedding quilt that HER grandma gave her 50 years ago because she knows i will appreciate it). it also got me likeminded friends who also make things.
take a ceramics class! pick up water colors, bake cakes! learn to work on cars! make soap. DO SOMETHING THAT DOESN’T INVOLVE STARING AT A SCREEN.
